[this post has been edited for awesomeness.]
ok, so the title is extreme hyperbole, but hear me out! i ‘ve been fucking up, peoples. i’ve been using ableist, sexist, cissexist language. sure, i didn’t mean anything by it, but i still fucked up.
i’ve been using words like “ret*rded” (ableist as fuck). i only recently stopped saying that i “identify” as non-binary (cissexist). i went through my blog a few weeks ago changing “transpeople” to “trans people” (again, cissexist), but i still haven’t apologized for writing it in the first place. i throw the words “man”, “guys”, and “dude” around like they’re glitter and the world is dan savage’s face (blatantly sexist).
and that’s not fucking neon, peoples. “ret*rd” is a hate-word and “transpeople” is accidentally cissexist. referring to a mixed-gender group as “guys” is sexist, though embedded in the language, and is starting to annoy me. i mean, what’d go down if you referred to a mixed-gender group as “ladies” or “gals”? at the very least, it’d be laughable.
i don’t dig censorship. i don’t think governments should get to censor the internet. but i think this is different because this isn’t about me deciding what’s good for other people– it’s about me not wanting to contribute to the rampant sexism, cissexism, and ableism in this society.
so i’m gonna try not to write/say shit like, “hey, guys!” unless i am literally writing/talking to a bunch of GUYS. the word “mankind” has always pissed me off (cuz what am i? a fucking orange?), so this just makes sense. masculinity is not the default. and point it out if i write/say “ret*rded”. that’s no less hurtful than writing/saying “tr*nny”– which i haven’t done in years.
if you (i was going to type “guys”) PEOPLES have any wicked and inclusive substitutes for these shitty words that have been staples of my vocabulary for years, lemme know. new words = fun times!
cuz these words are embedded in my brain and even as i write this, my brain leaps to ableist, sexist language. that doesn’t excuse me, though. peoples, i sincerely apologize. i fucked up and i have some work to do; i need to retrain myself. feel free to point it out if i slip up– this isn’t going to be easy.
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lemme know what you think about all this, cats. am i censoring myself? am i dumbing anything down? i don’t feel like i am, but i’m interested in your marvelous brains. (does that make me sound like a zombie? braiiiins…)
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just thought i’d point out that i’m not going to censor your comments unless they contain hate speech/slurs. you’re still allowed to write, “hey, guys!” without sticking an asterisk in there.