and it looks like this:
i wear it whenever i go out in public; to work, to the grocery store, to the park, etc. it’s pretty fucking awesome; it makes me feel honest cuz if people care to look, my gender is written right on my fucking chest. well, actually it’s written on a white sticker stuck to my chest, but you know what i mean.
when people DO misgender me (and they always do), i can point to my gender tag. i can say stuff like, “my pronouns are singular they/them/their. please see my gender tag.” i feel less like i’m hiding behind a facade of cis-ness and more like i’m just doing mx. punk.
sometimes i have rad conversations with strangers because of my gender tag. this one time at work, a middle aged woman was like, “oh my god! i’ve been laughing at a young person in my family for saying they were genderqueer! i totally thought they were making it up; i’m gonna go call them right now!” she even came back the next week to talk some more about non-binary gender and to tell me that her genderqueer family member was being taken a bit more seriously. honestly, i had no idea my gender tag would help anyone other than me– but i’m pretty excited that one less person is being ostracized and laughed at because of my li’l old gender tag.
sometimes i have uncomfortable conversations with people because of my gender tag. i had a customer at work invite me to their church while eying my gender tag. they also told me drugs were bad (i’ve never even tried drugs, tbh) and that god made men and women in his image. lulz.
sometimes my gender tag scares me. like when i’m going someplace new or when i’m working at a wedding or a party (as opposed to when i’m working in a tiny consignment store). i see people staring at my tag and i get nervous. i don’t know what i’m scared of, but my heart works a little harder when i know someone’s reading my gender tag.
mostly, though, i’m really stoked about my gender tag. it’s a rad conversation-booter and it sorta alleviates my social dysphoria.
do you experience social dysphoria and if so, how do you deal with it in the presence of strangers? talk to me, please!