lotsa people define “a trans* person” as someone whose sex and gender (or their body and mind/soul) don’t match. i see where this comes from. if we say THESE genitals are male and THOSE genitals are female and if we realize that we aren’t defined by our genitals, it stands to reason that gender (our internal selves) and bodies (mainly our genitals/sex) are two different things that may or may not coincide.
i declare shenanigans on this notion. yes, it’s true for lotsa trans* people; if you tell me your gender and your body don’t match up (whether or not you want/need them to match up)—i believe you. you are the ONLY authority on your gender and your body and i totally respect that. but when you define trans*-ness as a misalignment between gender and body, you erase people like me.
and how am i? i’ve said it before all over internet land; my gender defines my sex and names my body. my pussy is nonbinary; it belongs (really belongs) to a nonbinary trans* person. my tits are nonbinary (even though i fight with them and may get top surgery). my body DOES coincide with my gender; they’re both nonbinary. yet i’m still trans*.
i love the simpler, more inclusive definition of “a trans* person”: someone who was designated the wrong gender at birth. like, the doctor (or someone) said “it’s a girl/boy!” and they were wrong. not “born in the wrong body,” which is true of many but not ALL trans* people. not “someone whose sex and gender don’t match” (again, true of some but not all trans* people). just someone who was designated the wrong gender at birth (including people who feel they used to be the gender they were designated at birth, but have since experienced a change in gender).
basically, a trans* person is anyone who says they’re trans*. no questions asked.
how do you define “a trans* person?”