reader question: i’m a fucking grue/troll. help?!

[TW: cisfuckery, ciscentrism, binarism, sex-essentialism]

i love reader questions! actually, this was a comment,** but i moved it here cuz it’s just so yay:

Cis is nonsense. Its a power grab. Why shouldn’t male and female be the default? It IS the default, biologically speaking. About .025 percent of the world’s population is transgendered. It’s not usual. It’s not the norm. “Cis” is a missive fired in the gender politics wars. -Gore Vidal (@UndeadGoreVidal)

yep, you got troubles. i can tell. you’re dancing around the issues a little bit, but i’ll try to read between the lines and help you out. k? k. i shall begin by deciphering your (not-so-well-)coded message.

translations

Cis is nonsense.

translation: you respond to things you haven’t a clue about by pretending there’s nothing to understand. possibly because you believe this will stop folks from holding you accountable for your ignorance.

Its a power grab.

translation: you believe that decentralizing cisness will give trans* folks power over cis people. what kind of power, you ask? read on, brave question-asker!

Why shouldn’t male and female be the default? It IS the default, biologically speaking.

translation: you don’t know what gender is, you think you know what “sex” is, you’re conflating gender and sex in the grue-way rather than in the -i-think-sex-might-be-a-social-construction way, and you’re totes ok with marginalizing groups of people who aren’t common enough for you. it also appears that you feel entitled to being hailed as the default human. (either you’re a cis white guy, or you’re playing one for the lulz.)

also, this probably reveals what kind of power over cis people you’re worried about. i’m guessing you’re worried about trans* folks having enough ~magical powers~ over cis people to live in a world without ciscentrism. (in case you aren’t keeping up, my dudebro (or pretend-dudebro), insisting that cis people are the default is ciscentrist.)

About .025 percent of the world’s population is transgendered. It’s not usual.

translation: you’re reallyreally, fucking definitely ok with marginalizing a group of people if they aren’t common enough for you. like, “you must be this tall to ride the “i’m an actual human being with basic rights” train. basically what you’re saying. (in case you’re confused, lovely cockalorum, centralizing one group of people at the expense of another usually leads to denying the non-central group at least some of their human rights.)

It’s not the norm.

translation: you think “normal” is a thing and that you get to dole out human rights based on your own definition of it. sounds totes legit.

“Cis” is a missive fired in the gender politics wars.

translation: (i’m guessing “missive” is supposed to be “missile” because i don’t see what letters have to do with anything.***) you think “cis” is an insult or a weapon of some kind. you also seem to believe that trans* people have the numbers/the means to attack cis people and cause damage. (or why would you be worried about it? right?)

so, based on my highly-awesome (and not at all patronizing) analysis, this is a summary of what i think your (not-so-)cryptic message means:

  1. you don’t know what’s going on, so you’re pretending there’s nothing to understand.
  2. you think pretending there’s nothing to understand will immunize you against criticism.
  3. you think trans* people who demand human rights are going to do so by taking away your human rights.
  4. you don’t know the difference between privileges and rights.
  5. you don’t know what gender is.
  6. you think you know what “sex” is, but you’re conflating gender and sex in that fucked up “i’m-a-grue” way.
  7. you’re ok with marginalizing groups of people who aren’t common enough for you.
  8. you believe in the holiness of “normalcy”.
  9. you believe that people who don’t precisely fit your definition of “normal” deserve to be marginalized.
  10. you think “cis” is a dangerous weapon.

whew! now that i’ve translated your lovely little missive to the best of my (fabulous) abilities, i’ll move on to proposing some solutions for your problems.

solutions

  1. try to actually understand things. read things written by people you have privileges over (and actually stfu and pay attention). read blogs. there’s no need to jump in without first doing some research and some critical thinking.
  2. lolnope.
  3. do more thinking.
  4. read straight white male: the lowest difficulty setting there is, and what is privilege?.  being welcome and sacrificing privilege are probably relevant, too.
  5. google “what is gender” and read everything that comes up. especially stuff written by trans* people (see #1).
  6. see #1.
  7. accept that you’re a self-centered asshat. breathe deeply the fragrance of your own lower digestive tract. if you ever get sick of it, see #1.
  8. see # 7.
  9. see #7.
  10. read cis is not a slur, grues and “cisgender” is not a slur, john aravosis.

conclusions

and there you have it, grue/troll. thanks for the fun times! <3 i had fun, you had fun; we both won! plus, i managed to make the section titles kinda rhyme. like, how neon is that?!

you’re welcome for everything.

**seriously, this did start off as a comment on we need the word cisgender. but i couldn’t just leave it there; the clever gore vidal needed moar attentions! so i made this post. <3

***i just want to be clear that i’m not attacking vidal over a probable typo. typos, messed up grammar, etc. have nothing to do with an argument’s validity/invalidity. i just didn’t want to assume it was supposed to read “missile” rather than “missive” without saying something cuz that could be confusing and i could be wrong.

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UPDATE: vidal needs more attention! i’m so excited, i might pee. i just KNEW this day would come! also, they believe calling someone “a self-serving prick,” “a dumbfuck,” and “darling” counts as supporting their argument!

all italics are from a comment they posted below; i moved it up here cuz i wouldn’t want vidal to miss out on any potential attention.

you’re just so full of shit its not worth arguing with you about, and anyone who knows anything about the transmafia knows that arguing is pointless. but since you are such a fucking self-serving prick, let me reiterate to you a few little tidbits:
1. I know the difference between sex and gender. if youre a m2f trans you’re a woman, because woman is about gender identity. you are not, however female, because that’s about biology. so, let’s say it again until you finally understand. you’re not a female, but you can call yourself a woman if you like. just don’t let the radfems hear you or they’ll laugh until they pee., since they don’t and won’t ever say you’re a woman OR female.

wow! you’re not conflating gender and sex in the help-i’m-a-grue way! that means you’re right about everything! you win all the star stickers! yay for you!!!!11!! if you want even moar stars, try googling “biological sex social construct” (or something like that) and read everything you find.
and thanks for the heads up about terfs being assholes to trans* people (mainly dmab trans* people, i might add); that’s shocking! omfg how did i miss that? thanks, cat!

2. transactivism is about gender essentialism and it is essentially anti-feminist, anti-female and “pro-woman” (of the girly-girl, frock wearing variety); say it again: you say its about being female but everything you do and say (usually) is about gender identity.

i think you have a few things to teach women about feminism! i’m super impressed! and clearly, you are very active in the trans* community and read lots of trans* writings! i can tell.

3. I’m worried about .025 percent of the population being fucking ***** (edited by mx. punk to remove ableist bullshit) who violently censor anyone who doesn’t agree with them. It is a power grab, the oppression olympics. y’all want in on it. I could multiple examples faster than you can say “Cis.” How many individuals have their finger on a nuclear weapon? Probably less than .025 percent of the population, right darling? You at all worried about them? Like shootin’ fish in a barrel, talkin’ to you.

ya got me there. i mean, i DID totes just censor your ableist slur. and hey, that’s a good point about how “wanting in” on “the oppression olympics” is a total power grab. like, yeah! when folks start whining about being oppressed, they’re just trying to steal your delicious human rights!

apparently, when trans* folks attempt to decentralize cisness, it’s almost like we have nuclear weapons. cuz holy shit the next step from not being completely dehumanized is going nuclear. at the very least, attempting to decentralize cisness has the potential to kill cis people and destroy everything. you convinced me, darling-ookum-snookums. (it’s soooo romantic when you call me “darling”!)

4. “Cissexual” is a term made up by transactivists who actually do not understand the difference between gender identity, gender and sex. It’s an empty term. It “means” what you say it signifies, but it don’t MEAN a thing (cuz it ain’t go that swing). It’s a reification in your little power grab dance.

yup, no one understands gender/sex/etc. better than people who never have to question theirs’. no one else could possibly have anything to add! good thing we have pompous cis people like you to educate us! seriously though, let’s leave ellington out of it.

5. Being male or female (remember darling, that’s about sex) is the norm. Google “statistical norm.” Being transgender is not the statistical norm. It is not the “default” in terms of biological sex. That’s all. I’m not saying y’all are evil. I’m saying being transgendered is not normative. Your panties are in a bunch because you don’t want to be considered “non-ideal.” That’s not what I mean when I say that being transgender is not the norm. That is a fact. You’re worried that people will use “not the norm” to attack you, a valid worry.

oh, my sweet darling gore, maybe google “default human” and read things. i’ll wait for you. i’ll wait forever! *faints*

5. For every “blog” you want to send me to, I can send you to 100 others making the solid case for why your thinking is primitive, anti-female and reflective of the white-male-privileged power grab typical of the transmafia, so let’s just not play that little game. -Gore Vidal (@UndeadGoreVidal)

oh yes, my darling! please educate us! please don’t cite your sources (it makes total sense that you would also mock any sources other people cite)! please use words rooted in eurocentrism! and seriously, what a bunch of meanies those transactivists are; they’re totally just like the mafia. always killing cis people, threatening cis people with guns, beating the living shit out of cis people. totally. you’re so CUTE when you talk about privilege, i can’t stand it! *faints moar*

Oh, and p.s.:
“the noun missive comes from the Latin word missus, meaning “to send.” You may have heard the phrase, “fire off a missive,” meaning a note, memo or dispatch that was written and sent with urgency and conveyed an important message. It might have been a missive sent from a commander to the troops, telling them of a change in the battle plan.”

The use of the word “missive” was evidently too nuanced for you to understand that I was playing on the pair missive/missile and the allusion to a war of words, to wit, the war over the word “cis.” But you know what honey, just keep writing long, numbered lists of points refuting my points. I know it makes you feel proud of yourself. As for me, it allows me to see just how delightfully much of a dumbfuck you really are.

well, honey-lips, i didn’t catch that. if you’re going to be condescending about it though, let’s talk about how you believe 5 comes after 5. evidently, the hindu-arabic numeral system is too nuanced for you to understand. (see? being a condescending fuck because someone didn’t notice your linguistic prowess, made typos, and/or fucked up grammatically is major shenanigans.)

and let’s cut the shit. you didn’t come here to talk. you came here with your mind made up, looking for some fun. so here’s your fun! yay! i make fun of you without taking you seriously or considering anything you have to say!

once again, you’re welcome. darling.

14 responses to “reader question: i’m a fucking grue/troll. help?!

  1. http://dglenn.dreamwidth.org/1588929.html
    this is another really good comprehensive write up about the terms “cis” and “cisgender” and why they’re important and necessary and not derogatory.

  2. http://intersexroadshow.blogspot.com/
    also this blog has lotsa stuff about how sex isn’t actually dyadic (as does Asher Bauer’s Not Your Mom’s Trans* 101) and thats just another social construct and so your stupid “biological default” argument is bullshit.

  3. that’s plasmic, cat. intersex roadshow is neon. it’s really well-done by an actual intersex person (i wish that didn’t amaze me, but it does). thanks for the other link, too; it’s fucking excellent. i dunno if the op’s around, but if so, hopefully they’ll do some serious reading.

    and yeah, i had fun with this. i’ve never done it before and i probably won’t do it again, but yay.

  4. Also, trans people are actually 0.3% of the population. It would really help if their “facts” weren’t off by an order of magnitude.

  5. “Gender politcs wars” Yeah, there is a war going on. Problem is: it’s a war of aggression by the privileged against the rest of us. All we’re trying to do is maintain autonomy.

  6. @ zinnia jones: yeah, it’s pretty awesome that they got their stats wrong. it just makes everything funnier. i guess the person was like, “i’m going to try to convince someone that they don’t really exist, don’t deserve basic human rights, that i deserve ~all the rights~, and i’m going to use a made-up stat while i’m at it. that should work.”

    honestly, it didn’t even occur to me that i should actually find out how common trans* folks really are. i guess i was just appalled that mr. vidal actually thought i’d be ok with othering a group of people as long as the group were small enough. cuz why.

    thanks for the tip! one question, though. i’ve come across a few different estimates of the number of trans* people, none as small as mr. vidal’s .025%; where’d you find .3%? i’m not asking because i doubt you (i don’t), but because i’d love to have a solid source to cite next time this comes up. as it is, i can only cite a few sources that disagree with each other and don’t tell us who they consider “trans* enough” to count.

    also, i totally freaked out when i saw your comment cuz you’re one of favorite bloggers ever. so, yeah. if this comment seems a bit, um, incoherent or anything, it’s cuz i’m fan-catting all over the place. <3

    "fan-cat" sure sounds/looks awkward. also, i'm not really a cat, so… "fan-person"? "fan-thing"? "fan-blogger"? oh, well.

  7. @ em: ok. you win everything. <3 i award you a million computer hearts! <33333333333333333 seriously, though, that’s a great point.

  8. Ha…wow. This guy is very, very worried about “0.025%” of the population reaching for a “power grab” by calling him cis.

  9. edited by mx. punk: vidal, there’s no need for you to hide in the comment section with the peasants. i’ll put your comments in the post above, alright darling?

  10. @ scb: basically. usually i just delete comments like that, probably while giggling, but i guess i was in the mood for fun times.

  11. Oh my, I just read this after calling you darling in a previous comment. I’m so sorry, I wasn’t meaning it at all like this poster. In any case, this was both horrifying and awesome, but not surprising.

    The world is full of people who feel entitled to formulate uneducated opinions, and then hold to them in the face of logic and reason. I just wish I could believe that they could some day see the errors of their ways, but it’s unlikely. Saying the very least I’m thankful that you take the time to put some good into the world, and maybe someone else will benefit from it, learn, and become wiser.

    If nothing else it was supremely satisfying watching you trounce the grue.

  12. 2 punches and you’re out, already? Censoring me and locking your little website? You can’t handle the truth. But then again, we already knew that.

  13. @ bia: nah, it’s totally fine when YOU call me “darling”; you’re not some grue who thinks my blog is an affirmative action program for grues. it’s not like you call me “darling” condescendingly, so go ahead, cat. <3

    @ vidal: punches? not what i would've called 'em, but whatever. and considering that the locked post is entitled "this is what i look like," how very fucking creepy of you to want photographs of me. i was joking when i called you "my sweet darling gore," you know.

    fyi, my blog is not an affirmative action program for creeps, so you can stop obsessing over me. any further comments of yours' will go straight in the trash. thanks for playing, though.

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