“In my opinion… any “gender identity” is inherently sexist, because you are attaching certain psychological attributes to biological sexes (which then become reified as “genders”) and then identifying your personality as belonging to such ridiculous constructs.” — BlueTRICKster (read original post)
“But I can’t deny that traditional femininity is in no way right for me. But how can I say that my penchant for rough-and-tumble games, practical & comfortable clothes, total discomfort with the idea of pregnancy, and having male companions makes me more of a boy than the next girl? Isn’t that just playing into close-minded stereotypes? Everybody has qualities that are traditionally masculine or traditionally feminine, and wouldn’t being proud of both my personality and my biological sex be more of a healthy and feminist stance?” —ladyxxxlazarus (read original post)
“Truth is this, the clothing you wear does not make you male or female, who you are does that for you. So what does it matter?” —Reneta Xian (read original post)
first off, NO. no, being trans is obviously NOT being sexist.
this is something i’ve wondered about on many occasions. i’m formulating the details of my opinion as i go along, so be patient and lemme know if i’m being incoherent or something. also, pleasepleaseplease tell me what you think of all this. i think this is an important discussion.
as you may know, i’m a non-binary trans person, but i was assigned female at birth. i believe that woman can be rough and/or gentle, loud and/or quiet, etc. i know women who fit the male stereotype much better than i do— and i totally respect that they are women.
i believe that sex, gender identity and gender expression are distinct from one another. i mean, someone with a penis can be a woman while behaving in a stereotypically male fashion. who the fuck am i to tell this person that women don’t have penises and that women don’t like dirtbiking? women do whatever they want and it doesn’t matter what genitals they have.
if i believe that sex, gender identity and gender expression are distinct from one another, then why can’t i just go with the gender i was assigned at birth? i don’t know. i really don’t know why i feel like a non-binary trans person. i’m completely mystified.
it’s not that i don’t fit the stereotypes of the gender binary. i mean, i don’t, but who does? not fitting the stereotypes might not be a strong enough reason for identifying as non-binary because, well, the stereotypes are spidershit.
i view gender itself as a partly social construct that is incapable of binding people who don’t wish to be bound by it. many people live happily and naturally with gender. many interactions between people are based on gender; whether or not it is entirely based in fact is irrelevant. that’s why i don’t just want to get rid of gender; if it works for some people, than good for them. other people reject gender and live happily and naturally without it. and that’s pretty splendid, man.
i’m also not trying to create a new stereotype for non-binary people by calling myself genderqueer. as far as i’m concerned, a person with a pussy who loves wearing pink ball gowns and fucking people with penises can be genderqueer, too. i just don’t want anything to do with gender and its silly stereotypes and so i call myself “queer”.
i believe that gender is complex and mysterious and that we don’t have to put it under a microscope and dissect it. i mean, maybe it’s so personal that it doesn’t really have to make sense. i think gender is also inherently a bit nonsensical— like religion. it either works for you or it doesn’t, but it doesn’t have to be logical.
so here’s where i’ve arrived: i’m not a non-binary trans person because i do/wear/say non-binary things. i’m a non-binary trans person and i don’t need a bloody reason. huzzah! that means i’ve decided that being trans does NOT automatically make you sexist. sexist is when you label someone else as cis/trans because they do/don’t fit the stereotypes. transness is perfectly valid and is based on things deeper than the gender stereotypes.
ps: in case anyone is wondering, i don’t prance about in tutus and mustaches. i prance about in black kitty ears and band shirts (slayer, right now). mostly, though, i prance about nekkid.
edit (august 11th, 2011)
i’ve just realized that i forgot to discuss something important.
while i do believe that gender stereotypes are social constructs (i doubt that fetuses with penises already like blue), i do realize that gender itself is also partly based on biology. for example, i’m not saying that a trans person could be raised to be cis. just saying.