i came across this post tonight. dude, it made me sad. like, maybe this guy is joking around and shit and his reply to my comment will make me feel like an overly sensitive asshole, but it still seems pretty transphobic. so here’s the comment i posted:
trans women are women. they don’t WANT to be women; they ARE women. likewise, trans men are MEN. and non-binary trans people, like me, are simply people whose gender is neither male nor female.
gender identity, the feeling that you are a woman/man/other, stands alone. gender identity affects gender expression, but it isn’t dependent on gender expression. appearing female doesn’t make a person female. a female gender identity makes a person female. gender is internal, man, and trans people are not “unfortunate tweeners”. trans people often have clear gender identities; we know what our gender is. you’re the one who is confused.
“just curs[ing]… god” isn’t an option for trans people. if a person who was born with a penis and who is female still presents as male, that WOMAN is being perceived as male. that’s a pretty stifling closet, man. like, it sucks hard, man. if that woman transitions to a female presentation, whether or not said transition includes surgery and/or hormones, she is doing what she has to do in order to grow as a person and to not simply suffocate in her closet.
furthermore, you simply have no right to conclude that, for example, all men must have dense facial hair and must be over 6 feet in height. that is sexist and unrealistic. even people born with penises may grow sparse beards, may be short, may have difficulty building muscle, and/or may be “super adorable”. what is “manliness”, anyway, and how much “manliness” do YOU ooze?
you say that you’ve “formed an opinion on transgender people”. here’s a definition for you:
a. An adverse judgment or opinion formed beforehand or without knowledge or examination of the facts.
b. A preconceived preference or idea.
2. The act or state of holding unreasonable preconceived judgments or convictions. See Synonyms at predilection.
3. Irrational suspicion or hatred of a particular group, race, or religion.
4. Detriment or injury caused to a person by the preconceived, unfavorable conviction of another or others. (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/prejudice)
is that a rude comment? if the blogger just deletes it, should i be surprised? cuz i don’t know. i just know that i’m put-off by his totally casual transphobia.
i don’t think he’s trying to be an asshole— i think he’s just totally clueless. so i don’t want to be rude to this guy and just jump all over him and stuff. yeah.
what do you peoples think about this?