there’s this thing that sucks really hard: binary folks basically telling nonbinary folks that asking for respect (asking for our nongendered pronouns) is asking too much. it needs to stop, cats. please.
we don’t need binary folks to tell us how fucking hard it is to get other people to respect our nongendered pronouns. we already know that. we LIVE that. so when well-meaning binary folks come along and tell us (kindly, in my experience) that the thing we’re asking for is going to make work for other people—don’t. we already know.
i’m not saying you should be all like, “yeah! i bet if you just tell everyone, people will automatically start applying your nongendered pronouns to you without any fuckups! yeah!” cuz, you know, that’d come off as kinda sarcastic.
but you could be all like, “yeah, i’ll do my best. please correct me when i slip up and i promise to be graceful about it. do you want me to help you teach other people your pronouns?” something like that. cuz honest support would be rad. thanks, cats.
for a small sampling of receipts, check out the comment section of gender-neutral pronouns presenting a problem [TRIGGER WARNING: binarist asshattery].